The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed

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In the tradition of Paul Tough s How Children Succeed and Wendy Mogel s The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, this groundbreaking manifesto focuses on the critical school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience the disappointment and frustration that occur from life s inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.

Modern parenting is defined by an unprecedented level of overprotectiveness: parents who rush to school at the whim of a phone call to deliver forgotten assignments, who challenge teachers on report card disappointments, mastermind children s friendships, and interfere on the playing field. As teacher and writer Jessica Lahey explains, even though these parents see themselves as being highly responsive to their children s well being, they aren t giving them the chance to experience failure or the opportunity to learn to solve their own problems.

Overparenting has the potential to ruin a child s confidence and undermine their education, Lahey reminds us. Teachers don t just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic. They teach responsibility, organization, manners, restraint, and foresight important life skills children carry with them long after they leave the classroom.

Providing a path toward solutions, Lahey lays out a blueprint with targeted advice for handling homework, report cards, social dynamics, and sports. Most importantly, she sets forth a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their children s failures. Hard-hitting yet warm and wise, The Gift of Failure is essential reading for parents, educators, and psychologists nationwide who want to help children succeed.