Parents Under Siege: Why You Are the Solution, Not the Problem in Your Child's Life

Whether it's shocking TV coverage of a violent teen's lethal rampage or an encounter with a screaming toddler at the supermarket, most onlookers naturally wonder, "What kind of parents raised this kid?" Parents Under Siege politely volleys that question right back over the net with a community-wide call for compassion and accountability. In bold defense of the accused, child psychologist James Garbarino and child advocate Claire Bedard declare that parents are responsible--but not to blame--for the actions and behaviors of their offspring. They demonstrate that the road to empowered parenting begins with a critical look at each child's temperament and surrounding social environment. Garbarino and Bedard equip readers for this important task with a "conceptual toolbox": 10 fundamental strategies to analyze, jimmy, prop, or repair an array of developmental leaks, squeaks, sags, and clogs. With clear, real-life examples, they demonstrate each tool's role in bolstering the parent's abilities to understand deeply, cultivate mindfulness, and adjust their own behaviors as needed. This compassionate work--grounded in a strong religious foundation--blends research studies, parental testimony, and insights from spiritual leaders including the Dalai Lama. It stands out as a practical and empathic guide to parenting responsibly. --Liane Thomas