Becoming The Man I Want: Why Am I Not Married?

I'm single, I've never been married, no kids and I'm about to turn 40! WHY AM I NOT MARRIED? One day on Oprah, I heard a guest detail how her desire to be married led her to make a list of the things she wanted in a mate. After seeing and believing her ideal husband existed, she ended up happily married. This prompted me to make my own list of the things I wanted in a man, which I shared with my best friend.. I wanted this man to be spiritual, financially secure, filled with character, devoted to family values and able to make me happy. His response? What would happen if you got all these qualities in a man?" I described how wonderful it would be, but my friend's next words gave me a reality check. "You need to realize, he may have everything you want-but he'll have to deal with YOU, as you are, right now." At that moment, I had to realize that I can't ask a man to be my everything when I'm not everything to myself. What would happen if I decided to "BECOME THE MAN THAT I WANT?"