Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide For the Betrayed
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Author(s)Snodgrass, Patti
ISBN / ASIN1456334077
ISBN-139781456334079
AvailabilityIn Stock.
Sales Rank1,216,426
MarketplaceUnited States 🇺🇸
Description
If you are reading this most likely a dream has derailed in your life, and the world you knew yesterday no longer exists. You may feel as if your heart has been wounded beyond repair. I understand; I stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now.
The second your loved ones betrayal was exposed two paths ruthlessly appeared before you, and in the next days, weeks or months you will decide which path you will choose. You will either choose the vengeful bitterness route, or the hopeful forgiving route. Each will have its challenges - both will be painful. I had to pick my pain, and so will you. I knew whichever route I chose (whether my marriage stayed intact or not) I would be confronted with the unknown, and my journey would be confusing, frightening and emotionally draining.
As we reel in the aftereffects of our loved ones behaviors this life-altering event will continue to bombard our wounded hearts with more apprehensions and more questions. In order to move forward in a healthy healing way we must be willing to ask ourselves these questions. What will my heartbreak reveal about me? Will I allow this event to teach me - to grow me? Will I decide to move forward, in spite of the pain? Will I choose to one-day love again and trust again?
Sadly, I have met those who have chosen the vengeful bitterness route and they wander - lost, heartbroken, angry and mistrusting. Oftentimes lashing out their unprocessed hurt on anyone who comes too close to the wound that never heals. I know they did not set out to become frozen in their pain, but I learned that if the emotional wounds of betrayal are denied, ignored, and purposefully buried, they will go unhealed, which will cause more pain and more insecurity and more neediness. The distrusting cycle will continue until the wounded one is willing to face who they are, face who they have become as a result of the betrayal, and decide what they are willing to do to heal from the devastating choices created by their loved one.
Christopher Reeve so rightly stated, "Once you choose hope, anything's possible." I agree. The hopeful, forgiving path was a long and emotionally laborious path but I am truly thankful for the lessons I learned along the way. They were life changing and life giving. I am stronger because of my journey, and I am wiser because of my experience, and as I continued on the hopeful forgiving path my choice to trust and to love once again has proven to be the greatest healing gift of all.
Yes, betrayal has changed me and with candid vulnerability I share that journey of change with you. I want to encourage you to choose the hopeful and healing route. It is on that path you will discover that you can survive nightmares of the heart, and once you awaken a new life can be found.
- Patti Snodgrass
The second your loved ones betrayal was exposed two paths ruthlessly appeared before you, and in the next days, weeks or months you will decide which path you will choose. You will either choose the vengeful bitterness route, or the hopeful forgiving route. Each will have its challenges - both will be painful. I had to pick my pain, and so will you. I knew whichever route I chose (whether my marriage stayed intact or not) I would be confronted with the unknown, and my journey would be confusing, frightening and emotionally draining.
As we reel in the aftereffects of our loved ones behaviors this life-altering event will continue to bombard our wounded hearts with more apprehensions and more questions. In order to move forward in a healthy healing way we must be willing to ask ourselves these questions. What will my heartbreak reveal about me? Will I allow this event to teach me - to grow me? Will I decide to move forward, in spite of the pain? Will I choose to one-day love again and trust again?
Sadly, I have met those who have chosen the vengeful bitterness route and they wander - lost, heartbroken, angry and mistrusting. Oftentimes lashing out their unprocessed hurt on anyone who comes too close to the wound that never heals. I know they did not set out to become frozen in their pain, but I learned that if the emotional wounds of betrayal are denied, ignored, and purposefully buried, they will go unhealed, which will cause more pain and more insecurity and more neediness. The distrusting cycle will continue until the wounded one is willing to face who they are, face who they have become as a result of the betrayal, and decide what they are willing to do to heal from the devastating choices created by their loved one.
Christopher Reeve so rightly stated, "Once you choose hope, anything's possible." I agree. The hopeful, forgiving path was a long and emotionally laborious path but I am truly thankful for the lessons I learned along the way. They were life changing and life giving. I am stronger because of my journey, and I am wiser because of my experience, and as I continued on the hopeful forgiving path my choice to trust and to love once again has proven to be the greatest healing gift of all.
Yes, betrayal has changed me and with candid vulnerability I share that journey of change with you. I want to encourage you to choose the hopeful and healing route. It is on that path you will discover that you can survive nightmares of the heart, and once you awaken a new life can be found.
- Patti Snodgrass
