Coupling . . . What Makes Permanence?

Discover pertinent information for assisting couples in achieving permanence in their relationships from the invaluable perspectives on love and love relationships found in Coupling . . . What Makes Permanence? This fascinating new volume features insightful reflections of prominent couples therapists on the subject of love and the components that make long-lasting couples relationships. Centered around a recognition of human beings’seemingly instinctual need for attachment, these perceptive chapters address a range of questions from “What is love?” to “How is love maintained?” Two main steps to permanence that will aid therapists are balancing adult needs with child needs in both partners and recognizing the pervasive, illusory factors that are the downfall of so many relationships.

Profiles of couples who have stayed together for many years are examined and used as models for therapists to foster longevity in their clients’relationships. Important elements that contribute to permanence are advocated, such as the ability to give up illusions in the relationship, creating a web of trust to mitigate fears of loss, and achieving authentic and generative connection as opposed to the uneasy, frantic shifting for balance known as codependency. Practical advice on these and other fascinating topics make this an invaluable resource for therapists helping couples to attain the elusive goal of permanence in their relationships.