Becoming the Husband Your Wife Thought She Married

Early in his career as a gynecologist, Dr. Jim Schaller realized that most wives were unhappy, or at least very disappointed in their marriage. While wives had very specific ideas for improving their marriage, most husbands hadn't given it much thought.

As a doctor, husband, and father, he realized that American husbands did not give their highest priority to becoming a great mate ... but needed to get in touch with buried feelings so that their wives could relate to who they really were. And, they needed help, especially in running the gauntlet from boyhood to manhood.

The central challenge to men is that making a great marriage requires more energy, perseverance, honesty, and courage than any other manly pursuit, yet no achievement in life can be more praiseworthy or satisfying than being a great spouce.

Intimacy may bethe crowning jewel, but real success in marriage involves coping with day-to-day events with the motivation to "go for it." The right attitude in both partners can turn a marriage around, change minds, open hearts, heal families, and solve violence.

In covering a wide variety of topics, Dr. Schaller discusses

is mom really a problem?
reviewing what you want from a marriage
how to talk about what you feel
why men have trouble with intimacy
some simple recipes for marital disaster, and
keeping the "he- she- us" candles burning