Why Won't They Listen To Me

This book was the one you wished you had read before becoming a parent, or before accepting that leadership position at work. But here you are. Something isn t working as well as you thought it was going to, or that you wished it would. You wonder how you can make it work. You certainly meant well. You did your best. Every parent does. In fact, all humans operate at their highest available level. If they could have done better, they would have done better. What might have happened? The perceived demands of a busy and fragmented society have led to the phenomenon of Quick-Fix parents, who have inadvertently resorted to quick-fixes for their children, instead of taking the time to set appropriate boundaries and model appropriate skills. It is time for a re-examination of the family fabric, a reminder of basic skills and attitudes toward raising children who can connect to family and society, and who are able to respect the boundaries set for them. Failure to develop these leadership skills inevitably leads to teens and young adults who fail to be able to connect meaningfully and to develop an awareness of societal boundaries. This book is important to read now. Too many kind and loving families have ended up with children who are disrespectful to family guidelines and hurtful to parents, siblings and later, society. They believe their kids got out of control by accident. Although parents believe that this outcome is accidental, they need to know that it is predictable and preventable. The principles contained therein are as appropriate to leadership at work as they are at home. The same scenarios described in the book are en force in organizations across America, wherever two or more people are interacting. The dynamics are the same, the actors differ. This book will walk you through the basics of getting back in control, of re-establishing the natural pack order. In Part I, you ll start right off learning how to get other people to listen to you, and how to get others to change. You ll find out how to begin the change process, and how to establish new ground rules. You will see if your style is one of the nine styles of parenting that might have helped create the problem. You may recognize some of your child s behaviors from the descriptions and the real-life examples. Part II will take you through the five basic leadership skills you ll need to help solve the problem. Part III will dig deeper into underlying issues, so you might understand how this all came about. There are special sections on specific problems such as truancy, lying, tantrums, teasing and bullying. This book is hopeful, and encouraging, understanding and forgiving. Over the years, I have seen so many families restored using the principles in this book. It is a testimony to the power of the human spirit, that no matter how difficult things have become, they can always improve.