A Peacock or a Crow? Stories, Interviews and Commentaries on Romanian Adoptions

As the adoptive dad of a son from Romania, I was glad to have this book available before dealing with some of the issues all adoptive families (not just those from Romania) face. Groza and his co-authors discuss some important issues -- some of which are more scary or ominous than others. The book paints an incomplete picture (in fact, most information on international adoptions is incomplete simply because so little research has really been done yet) in some cases, and gives opinions with which some would strongly disagree. I was satisfied, however, that the authors seemed to acknowledge their opinions are subject to new data and interpretation -- new data which they are actively involved in seeking. Groza paints a hopeful picture for kids adopted out of institutions, while admitting that there will always be some kids who are irreversibly damaged -- and that there will always be some "baggage" even in the most well-adjusted kids. It was very useful to read of others' experiences, and I highly recommend this book to all prospective adoptive parents (whether adopting from Romania or elsewhere). There are no pat answers here, but a lot of useful information and reassurance.