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When people first get into a relationship, the early days are nothing short of .magic., and the lovers are all over each other, staring at one another with wistful eyes, and they have not a grain of doubt that they have finally met “the one!”

But then months (or years) later, where there was stomach butterflies upon seeing each other, there’s an understated loathe and distrust, and maybe one or both partners are no longer excited to have sex.

What happened?

Maybe they think they look ghastly. Maybe they are jealous about their partner getting close with their workmate. Maybe they feel inadequate. These are major signs that the partner is trapped in the jaws of insecurities. If they don’t act fast enough to rid themselves of these insecurities, the love they once had for their partner will water down, and soon enough their relationship will be tossed into the bottomless pit of failed relationships. If they are the type of lovers with a high threshold for pain, then they are in for a long and bumpy roller-coaster of negative emotions.

The biggest sign that someone is insecure is a tendency to cling onto their partner.

This means that they will start following their partner around, never wanting to be separated, and when their partner is out there trying to get a life, the insecure person will take every opportunity to try to contact them. They are basically afraid of losing their partner. They will reach for their phone and text them, video call them, send funny images and videos to them. The insecure person will expect their partner to respond promptly because any delay can cause them tremendous emotional pain. 

You would think that having someone chasing you everywhere makes you like them even more; but the opposite is true.

When a person acts insecure in love, their partner becomes frustrated,

and in the beginning,  they cannot make it obvious, but as the insecure person escalates their clingy behavior, their partner subtly starts to evade them, but then it reaches a point and they become exhausted and they send out a strong and clear message: I hate what you are doing!

At this point, the insecure person will literally be acting like a slave, except in this case they have not been forced into that situation.

Insecurity is caused mainly by a terribly low self-esteem. In order to overcome insecurities, you have to confront the deep-seated issues that have pulled your self-esteem down, and you have to work on building your self-esteem.

It is also important to increase your emotional intelligence and self-awareness so that you may understand the connection between your thoughts and actions.

The more you understand yourself, the easier it becomes to overcome your low self-esteem and become a suitable partner.

This book looks into the subject of insecurities in relationships and helps you to understand how they play out and what you must do to overcome them. The actionable tips will help you become not just a great partner but a great person in general.