One and the Same: My Life as an Identical Twin and What I've Learned About Everyone's Struggle to Be Singular

Journalist Abigail Pogrebin is many things—wife, mother, New Yorker—but the one that has defined her most profoundly is “identical twin.” As children, she and her sister, Robin, were inseparable. But when Robin began to pull away as an adult, Abigail was left to wonder not only why, but also about the very nature of twinship. What does it mean to have a mirror image? How can you be unique when somebody shares your DNA?
 
In One and the Same, Abigail sets off on a quest to understand how genetics shape us, crisscrossing the country to explore the varied relationships between twins, which range from passionate to bitterly resentful. She speaks to the experts and tries to answer the question parents ask most—is it better to encourage their separateness or closeness? And she paints a riveting portrait of twin life, yielding fascinating truths about how we become who we are.

• The Same but Different: How Twins Can Live, Love, and Learn to Be Individuals
• Twins in Session: Case Histories in Treating Twinship Issues
• Emotionally Healthy Twins: A New Philosophy for Parenting Two Unique Children
• Twin Dilemmas: Changing Relationships Throughout the Life Span
• Parenting School-Age Twins and Multiples
• Twins: And What They Tell Us About Who We Are
• My Jewish Year: 18 Holidays, One Wondering Jew
• What to Do When You're Having Two: The Twins Survival Guide from Pregnancy Through the First Year
• Raising Identical Twins: The Unique Challenges and Joys of the Early Years
• Indivisible by Two: Lives of Extraordinary Twins