The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right!

Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they have become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up.

Enter the good news: In this revolutionary book, Real shows women how to master the new rules of twenty-first-century marriage by offering them a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve. He identifies five non-starters to avoid and shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationship. Using his experience helping thousands of couples shift from despair to profound emotional closeness, Real guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner. With this program you’ll discover how to

- identify and articulate your wants and needs
- listen well and respond generously
- set limits, and stand up for yourself
- embrace and appreciate what you have
- know when to seek outside help

The New Rules of Marriage will introduce you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based on the idea that every woman has the power to transform her marriage, while men, given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.


From the Hardcover edition.

• How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women
• I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
• The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love
• The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
• The New Peoplemaking
• Addressing Cultural Complexities in Practice: Assessment, Diagnosis, and Therapy
• Tell Me No Lies
• Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
• Intentional Interviewing and Counseling: Facilitating Client Development in a Multicultural Society - Standalone Book