Outgrowing the Pain Together

Because love is not enough... a step-by-step plan for overcoming obstacles together. Childhood abuse has many forms, but the message is always the same: people who love you hurt you. If you are the spouse or partner of a survivor of an abusive childhood, you know what that means-a relationship that has you worried, angry, or frustrated. You may be wondering if the person you love will ever "get over" his or her past, and if you can ever have a "normal" relationship. You may even have thought about leaving out of frustration and despair. But there is real help. Therapist Eliana Gil understands the special problems you and your partner face. Based on her extensive clinical experience with adults abused as children, she has developed a unique, much-needed program specifically for couples. It provides guidance in:

Anger management.
Safe and successful ways to express feelings.
The dangerous trigger words: what are they; what they do.
Touching or being touched: no more fear; no more guilt.
Good sex: Loving, fulfilling intimacy.
Decision-making and power: equal partners at last.
Ending the silence: communication that worked.
Commitment: being able to count on tomorrow... and more.