After the Wrecking Ball: Ten Principles for Finding Peace Amidst Conflict

In 1995, the author, a lawyer and college professor, found herself sitting alone on a hilltop alone in Arizona wondering where her life had gone. "There seemed to be no way to manage the multiple challenges in my life. I wavered between stoicism and misery, between self blame and internal, and occasionally external, rants at fate and those “others” whose actions had created my painful situation, and between sudden leaps into action designed to solve my problems and collapses into helplessness. But nothing worked."
However, over the next two years she began to receive, every few months, a new guiding principle around which she could orient her life and rebuild it. Gradually, as she began to change her way of seeing, her external life changed, too. What were once intractable conflicts faded away. Where life seemed a struggle, it shifted into flow. Where devastatation had reigned, creation became the order of the day.