Now That He's Gone A Financial Therapist's Guide to Life After Loss

Written to comfort and advise widowed and divorced women everywhere, Now That He's Gone by acclaimed financial therapist Beverly Tobocman retells inspiring stories of women who built emotional and financial security after losing their man, and provides a straightforward blueprint for achieving inner peace and rebuilding life as a single. Beverly is a successful Michigan-based financial consultant who was inspired to write the book by her suddenly single women clients, who came to her seeking financial advice, but found solace and wisdom from Beverly s shared personal experiences with divorce recovery.
In Now That He's Gone Beverly addresses the emotions of a woman in crisis and answers her most desperate questions with wisdom and compassion. She starts with the essential questions every newly uncoupled woman should ask about her money. Then she attends to a woman s emotional needs, which she believes is the most challenging part for any woman, by sharing her own personal post-divorce story as well as amazing tales from her clients who reconstructed their happiness after losing a spouse in tremendous adversity. From a couple who was separated by Nazi concentration camps during the war, to a woman whose husband left her after she was stricken with a debilitating disease, each true life story offers a positive resolution and a universal, meaningful life lesson that supplies comfort and support to widowed and divorced women on their own.
Beverly provides a magic formula to celebrate life as a single, and to nurture confidence and self-reliance in any newly single woman. The book provides creative ways to build a new life, tips for reaching out to others and ways to change negative, self-deprecating thoughts into productive, joyful ones. Through personal examples of strong women, Beverly motivates readers to celebrate their life, no matter the status, and to transform themselves from a victim to a victor.
With her clients featured in the book, Beverly founded just us girls, a support group for divorced and widowed women. The mission of the club is to provide emotional support and encouragement while providing opportunities to learn beneficial life skills for single life. The book celebrates the beauty of the organization and Beverly encourages readers to join or start a just us girls club at nowthathesgone.com. Beverly also challenges the reader to reevaluate their life s goals as a single, and provides helpful, motivational advice to readers for implementing a no-fail plan to achieve them. This includes defining what success means in a personal way, quantifying dreams, and brainstorming the process to reach each goal.
Finally, Beverly walks readers through the steps to building a support team, including important considerations on choosing an attorney, a counselor and a financial advisor.
Now That He's Gone is 101-pages long and written in a light, conversational, uplifting tone that is easy to read. It includes humorous cartoons to illustrate important points and augment the book s message of hope and inspiration for women on their own. As those who have read the book can testify, Now That He s Gone is a life transforming book that should be required reading for any mother, daughter, sister or friend who unexpectedly finds herself braving life alone.