The Myth of More: And Other Lifetraps That Sabotage the Happiness You Deserve

In confusing happiness with pleasure, people set themselves up for continual failure. Pleasure is a short-term high that comes from without, while happiness is an abiding serenity that comes from within. It lies in accepting who we are right now and what we have right now.

There are two main obstacles to happiness, says the author. The first is one's "lifetrap" or patterns of behavior that worked in childhood but now cause us to be dysfunctional as adults. Overcoming one's lifetrap is not enough; refusing to go beyond this is the second obstacle. One must also incorporate spirituality in one's life and harmonize one's desires with God's will. This insightful blend of traditional psychiatry with spirituality draws on both contemporary and classic writers, as well as on fascinating case studies as illustration. Key themes touched on include understanding the past, living in the present, detachment, religion, spirituality, love, and more. The author helps readers realize that, while we can't be shielded from everyday ups and downs, we all possess the power to be happy.

The book is simple and upbeat yet is backed with serious thought and a powerful message. Spiritual seekers, self-help readers, and those in need of change may find it a source of personal breakthrough. The title is also an excellent resource for counselors, spiritual directors, pastors, religious and clergy, and retreat directors. DREs might also find this a fascinating book to use for adult ed classes.