What is the Tone of Your Communication?: Effective Keys to Preventing Relationship Breakdowns - Enjoying the Benefits of Maintaining a Healthy Sex ... (Improving Your Relationship) (Volume 1)

I was talking with a friend about his relative who was going through some very difficult times in his marriage. The way his wife spoke to him was disrespectful and discouraging and they were having a lot of arguments from nothing more than the tone of her voice. Her mother also spoke with the same kind of tone. One day after leaving her mother’s house she expressed her frustration about her mother’s tone of voice to her husband and asked; “I don’t talk to you like my mother does to my dad, do I?” He realized he had to tell her the truth and said that she did. Her response was shocking. Instead of listening to her husband and learning about herself, she just denied it. He couldn’t believe it when she said, “Oh no, I don’t sound anything like her.” She didn’t want to be like her mother, but she was. She continued to speak to her husband in the same tone of voice and he did not know where to go in their relationship. That relationship eventually ended in a divorce. Wrong tone of voice can kill a relationship. “What is the tone of your communication” is a book that helps you think through the way you communicate with your spouse, that is, the tone of your voice. Our words only represent 7-8 percent of our communication. The rest of our message is with body language and tone of voice. Because we are often tone deaf we don’t hear how we speak to those closest to us. This book seeks not only to challenge your thinking process, but also to make you aware of issues that perhaps you haven’t taken seriously in the way you communicate. If you wonder why your partner is always reacting to you rather than responding to you then you will find this book helpful. The opening section on non-verbal communications helps open your eyes to the importance of this book. The stage is then set for you to go on an eye-opening journey that will not leave you the same. One of the most important truths you will discover is that most people are tone deaf when it comes to their own tone of voice. They usually don’t hear their negative tone of voice. Tone of voice for both the woman and the man are addressed, showing that each uses tone of voice for different purposes whether consciously or unconsciously. Tone of voice is such an obvious factor in life, but we seldom delve into how it is used and how to deal with it, as well as how to use it properly. More than once you have caused people to think the worst of you because of the tone of voice you have used with them. More than once your relationship has floundered because of inappropriate tone of voice by one or both of you. This book is a way to avoid sweeping this problem under the rug any longer, but to bring it out in the open and deal with it.