You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me): Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

Parents whose kids are away at college have a tough tightrope to walk: they naturally want to stay connected to their children, yet they also need to let go. What's more, kids often send mixed messages: they crave space, but they rely on their parents' advice and assistance. Not surprisingly, it's hard to know when it's appropriate to get involved in your child's life and when it's better to back off.

You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me) helps parents identify the boundaries between necessary involvement and respect for their child's independence. Marjorie Savage, who as a parent herself empathizes with moms and dads, but who as a student services professional understands kids, offers advice on wide-ranging issues, including:

• How to cope with your family's mood changes in the months before move-in day on campus

• Why students complain about the food but still manage to gain fifteen pounds their first year

• How to teach basic financial responsibility, including the handling of credit cards and academic expenses

• When parental intervention is critical

With anecdotes and suggestions from experienced parents and college staffs nationwide, the strategies and tips provided throughout will help you to create a loving, supportive partnership responsive to the needs of both you and your children.