Proud to be 'Pushy': The Affirmation of Assertiveness & First Principles of Getting What You Want Out Of Life, Emotionally and Otherwise

Author and professional Motivation, Affirmation, Self-Esteem & Life Coach Sam Bryant Guides us through the basics of living and being in this refined, insightful and indispensable work of introspective and self-examined "YES!" living.

From the Author:

"Have you ever noticed when someone says that so and so is a ‘good’ person what they actually tend to mean is that so and so is ‘harmless’: That so and so is unlikely to offend us in any way, has very few opinions, would rather avoid any sort of disagreement and making any sort of demand would, in their mind, constitute being rude? Sure you do. We all do. Those high-flown moralizers that put the path of least resistance on a pedestal; right next to some warped alter of humility that they feel entitles them to judge people who actually go out in life and willfully create themselves, instead of being built by circumstance or someone else's ideal.

A good way to tell whether or not you, yourself, are one of these so-called ‘good’ people is the extent to which you had some sort of reflexively negative reaction to that first paragraph. For you see, being an “asshole” or a “bitch” has nothing to do with what was just written or what this book is about; but everything to do with how people who assert themselves in this life will, by that act alone, be perceived by those that are unable or unwilling to strike out into the world with an intrepid spirit. The primary hurdle anyone who would like more out of life faces is the reality that the more one tries to get what they want, the more resistance one encounters. This is simply a natural law: for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

That said: There is a very high likelihood no one is stopping you but you. You may in fact feel as if there are forces arrayed against you stopping you from getting what you want; and you know what – there very well may be. But the thing is this, and it is the most important point of this book: In order to really and truly take advantage of living you must live your life as if you, yourself, willed the whole thing, just as it is, into existence; that you, yourself, are responsible for anything and everything that happens in your life – good or bad. By owning the good and the bad, we find our “better”. After that, the only thing left to pursue is our “best”. And there is nothing at all about pursing our best that is harmless..."