The Defiant Ones: A Manual for Raising Kids
Book Details
Author(s)Jeffery Bruns
ISBN / ASINB00FDWBZJK
ISBN-13978B00FDWBZJ2
Sales Rank1,562,140
MarketplaceUnited States 🇺🇸
Description
This book describes the system I have been using successfully with kids for many years. It is written for parents with kids from toddlers to teenagers who have ever wondered why their child should turn to them rather than to drugs and suicide. It is a record and a guide for these parents to a program that is working successfully in the home and classroom to change these hostilities among our kids. To produce the necessary initiative in the classroom and in the home, I show kids how they can get what they want and be who they want to be by adopting an industry-based standard of achievement. Kids learn how to take responsibility for their actions. I will discuss quite candidly why our educational system is not able to offer the same success as an alternative and why all too often some parents realize too late the mistakes they make in bringing up their children.
How did I develop The System? Well, it happened almost by accident.
In 1980, I was fresh out of a university graduate program in behavioral science-three graduate years training cats to respond to commands by teaching them to ring a bell when they were hungry. Two years later I was completing an internship by helping to develop programs to change the unacceptable behavior of junior high school students using the same techniques I had learned with the cats. Unless their behaviors changed, the local school district would have to place these children outside the regular public school system. The programs were just as effective as the programs with the cats, and the children were admitted back into the public school system, where their problems started.
While I was pleased that the behavior modification programs worked, I was distressed because the systems I was experiencing and observing in the school and home weren't working. The systems themselves were creating a need to have "corrective" behavior programs, instead of simply functioning to educate children to be happy, successful people. Teachers and parents were nagging children ninety percent of the time and teaching and enjoying them ten percent of the time. It was a constant emotional turmoil. If we weren't able to raise our kids for success, then what were we doing? Whatever it was, it wasn't any fun.
How did I develop The System? Well, it happened almost by accident.
In 1980, I was fresh out of a university graduate program in behavioral science-three graduate years training cats to respond to commands by teaching them to ring a bell when they were hungry. Two years later I was completing an internship by helping to develop programs to change the unacceptable behavior of junior high school students using the same techniques I had learned with the cats. Unless their behaviors changed, the local school district would have to place these children outside the regular public school system. The programs were just as effective as the programs with the cats, and the children were admitted back into the public school system, where their problems started.
While I was pleased that the behavior modification programs worked, I was distressed because the systems I was experiencing and observing in the school and home weren't working. The systems themselves were creating a need to have "corrective" behavior programs, instead of simply functioning to educate children to be happy, successful people. Teachers and parents were nagging children ninety percent of the time and teaching and enjoying them ten percent of the time. It was a constant emotional turmoil. If we weren't able to raise our kids for success, then what were we doing? Whatever it was, it wasn't any fun.
