Stress is a Choice; So is Joy: Second in the Psychoharmonics® Series

Psychoharmonics® is the registered trademark of a revolutionary system for understanding and managing human emotions that unashamedly challenges the traditional theories and practices of the various disciplines that absurdly claim to have a cure for stress.

What is shared here is not psychology or psychiatry, which often do little more than provide temporary palliative remedies for relieving the symptoms of emotional dysfunctions. Neither is this a religion with rigid rules that are incompatible with the natural laws of the mind, body, and spirit. Instead, what you will find within these pages is a practical, down-to-earth philosophy for harmoniously guiding your thoughts and actions. This, in turn, produces the most good and the highest possible level of joy for yourself and others you encounter in your life's daily journey. It fixes what’s not working for you by helping you to recognize and choose what does work.

The problem most people have with life is they are trying to deal with adult challenges with the same emotional tools they were using in kindergarten. Another kid takes your toy and you smack him back, feeling justified in your anger. When he smacks you back, you scream and go after him like a tiger. That didn't work in kindergarten, and it certainly doesn't work when dealing with a drunk mate, an angry boss, or a rude driver.

Treating only the symptoms of stress is like taking the battery out of your smoke alarm when it’s screaming that your house is on fire. Psychoharmonics® radically redefines the generic cause and cure for toxic stress. It can rapidly transform you into a happy, healthy, achieving dynamo; many grateful students have achieved that magical metamorphosis overnight. If you read each chapter with an open mind, faithfully do the exercises, and then apply what you have learned, you can add 10 to 20 or more good years to your life – years in which you can continue to achieve, make a contribution to the world, experience a wondrous amount of joy every day, and feel grateful for each of those extra days that you are given.

What you’ll learn here is that all stress, defined simply as tension that hurts, is caused by the harboring in your own mind of one or more impossible goals. Goals are impossible because of time, space, or circumstances. You can’t do anything yesterday. You can’t be here now and somewhere else now. And you can’t set goals for anything or anybody but yourself. Once you learn to identify and cancel all the impossible goals that are wasting your finite energy, you’ll start enjoying a sense of peace and wellbeing that cannot be achieved any other way. You’ll learn that by skillfully choosing the labels you use for the objects of your attention, you can control your operating mindset and thereby control your emotions instead of having them control you.

When you are able to demonstrate that you are in control of your emotions, you’ll be regarded by others as a person with power. That power will open many doors in both your personal and business life that otherwise would be closed to you. You’ll also learn what love really is and how to make the special people in your life feel both loved and appreciated.

With this new power, you will have the advantage of understanding and even predicting the behavior of other people you encounter, no matter what their cultural background might be. Sometimes in this ever-more-violent world, that could save your life.

Psychoharmonics® recognizes that you are a body, a mind, and a spirit and that none of these parts of your total person can be healthy if one of them is sick. Clear instructions are given for a healthy diet, rational exercise, and food for your spirit that will enable you to live a long, healthy, and joyful life.