Naturally Social: Safety and Play between People

Most of us have felt a socially connected feeling, often or just a little. Other times we reach and try but are unable to find it. After years of struggle, I began actively socializing and dating. Attending new events, improving talents, hired a life coach, using conversation and body language tactics, acting confident. Yet with years of this I still never felt truly close to people. ..I then turned more deeply to buddhism; I practiced increasingly long meditations. ..I notice different subtle ways of being with others and connecting. I notice energies, feeling of connection, that ‘arose’ between people. Yet all the while something felt growly off. I was doing all this meditation, yet my body was actually becoming weak. .. Finally it hit me, in my meditation I had eliminated play, fun, personal passion, completely. I began to realize that fun was not just a past time, it gives us life in a vital way. ..Together fun and this light energy between people, they create connection. I realized I was reading all kinds of fear about myself and self doubt into the expressions of others, that wasn't actually there. This prevented me from seeing a more subtle connection. Simple currents of light and play between people created connection, feeding not only the mind, but the heart. Creating positive associations with connection to replace negative. They start small, yet lift us to unimaginable heights. We can drop the effort, the act, and feed off this naturally emitted growing energy of human light and play.