He Would Never Do That to Me: And Other Lies Women Tell Themselves

We women love our men and so want to trust them. We want them to be who we think they are. We want them to be the man we see in our minds eye. Somehow we have this ability to romanticize our men and not see their faults. This can be a good thing. If we saw all of their faults, we’d probably never want to have sex with them or take them out in public. We are so good at this that when we love a man we can’t see anything wrong with him. We are completely oblivious to things other people can see. Perhaps that’s what they mean by “love is blind”. We build them up in our minds and sometimes put them on a pedestal and have a sort of hero worship thing going on and once that happens things can get a little weird. At that point sometimes no matter what happens we refuse to see the truth, even if it’s right in front of our eyes. Maybe we see it, but we just don’t want to see it so we just DON’T.