The Narcissist Borderline Relationship Dynamic: How and Why NPD and BPD Couples Trigger Each Other's Wounds (and What To Do About It) (Transcend Mediocrity Book 63)

Many of my readers write to me, and they often want to know how to improve or fix a relationship between a narcissistic personality disordered (NPD) man and a borderline personality disordered (BPD) woman. This dynamic duo tends to get together a lot more than people seem to realize. This duo is one of the most difficult relationships to maintain, but can also be one of the most rewarding love connections realized by both sides of the duo. When each partner learns the habits and needs of the other, they can seek to better fulfill each other’s needs.
This book hopes to fill the gap for those readers who are seeking to fine tune their relationships or to improve an abusive or emotionally versatile relationship. We discuss NPD and BPD as it pertains to a heterosexual relationship, but the same rules apply if the roles are reversed and in a homosexual relationship. We hope to give new light to those who are choosing to stay in the relationship, but want better ways to interact with their partner to make the relationship work. It is no surprise that this volatile couple needs more tools to deal with the complications of their relationship and to avoid a breakup or an abusive situation.
The narcissist borderline couple tends to form because each person is attracted to the other based on their primitive childhood injury. Though both people grew up in different environments, each experienced some level of emotional and developmental trauma which draws them together. The bonding grows love, while at the same time sometimes causing a trauma bonding to occur between the couple in the midst of toxic circumstances. Both sides of the couple are emotionally underdeveloped to some degree, and the high conflict in their relationship generally exposes this underdevelopment further.
The narcissist and borderline each have strengths and weaknesses. Some of their personality traits are at polar opposite ends of the spectrum. The borderline is highly chaotic at times and versatile, while the narcissist can be set in his ways and quite rigid at times. These opposites attract because they complement each other, but some of their negative personality traits also threaten to damage each of them severely as well. The trick is to find the balance in how they can relate to each other, and how they can reduce their own personality defects in order to become a better person for the other person in the relationship.

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