EMPATH: A Complete Guide for Finding Your Sense of Self, Use Emotional Intelligence and Creating a Joyous and Full Life

This volume is a current outlook on emotional intelligence, and emotional intelligence requires you at the basic level to have self-awareness and metacognition skills,
and the key here is being able to identify and name the emotions we're feeling without being reactive without being judgmental.

By default, we are just reacting to things as they are happening, and to be fair, our cognitive capability is made to make us survive in that mode for life.
But we are no more living in simple conditions, and our systems are complex, our cities are sophisticated, our workplaces require complex communication, on and on.
And it will only ever get complicated over time.
The only solution is to adapt, what we are the best at in the animal kingdom.
Emotional intelligence was made for us.
When we truly have metacognition that's when we truly have self-awareness because what happens is as soon as we're able to identify and name the emotions we're feeling, our neocortex [a part of the brain],
the language part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex gets involved, it needs to get involved, in order to be able to observe the emotions and name the feeling.
That process is the simple oversimplification of how extremely emotionally intelligent observer and react, based on introspection.
As soon as we can do that we have gotten away from the grip of the amygdala, the lizard part of the brain, the part of the brain that is archaic and primal that it's only thinking about fight or flight
and only gets activated in the face of really charged emotions.
Dive into this book and up your game